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Saturday, November 5

How to Stop Escalation

People who operate from principles have an easier time of staying calm in the face of provocation than people who don't yet have clearly enunciated principles. 

Here's an example of a principle-based skript. The two principles at play here are: 

1. I don't argue electronically.

2. I won't be shouted at.

In this exchange, the other party might -- or might not -- stay angry, but the assurance that a conversation will happen at a named time goes a long way toward calming the storm. 

How would you respond? Comment on our Facebook page

Principle-based skripts create boundaries.

Les scripts basés sur des principes créent des limites.


Friday, November 4

How to Solve a Problem

This problem-solving strategy is named after the idea that, given enough time, a room full of monkeys with typewriters would write all the books in the British Museum. 

The monkeys-and-typewriters analogy gets a lot of play, doesn't it? Type your response on our Facebook page

British Museum Algorithm

When trying to solve a problem, this technique involves trying one solution after another, starting with solutions that have the fewest steps.

Algorithme du British Museum

Lorsque vous essayez de résoudre un problème, cette technique consiste à essayer une solution après l'autre, en commençant par les solutions qui comportent le moins d'étapes.


Thursday, November 3

How to Dance Your Way to Mental Health

I've not yet seen it in action, but I imagine Dance Therapy would also be helpful in addressing social anxiety. 

Does Dance Therapy seem to you like a useful path to mental health? Tell us why on our Facebook page! 

Dance Therapy

A therapeutic technique that uses rhythmic movement and music to help clients gain greater body awareness and improve social interactions.

(Introduced by U.S. dance professional Marian Chace in 1942)


Une technique thérapeutique qui utilise le mouvement rythmique et la musique pour aider les clients à acquérir une plus grande conscience de leur corps et à améliorer les interactions sociales.

(Introduit par la professionnelle de la danse américaine Marian Chace en 1942)


Wednesday, November 2

Why The Man Thought He Was a Hat

Appersonation is a disorder different from impersonation, because the sufferer truly believes the delusion. Delusions are sometimes caused by stress, though often by a medical, mental, or neurological condition. But they're deeply believed by the sufferer.

Has stress caused you to question reality? De-stress on our Facebook page


The delusional belief that one is another person (usually famous) or object, which leads to taking on their characteristics. 


La croyance délirante que l'on est une autre personne (généralement célèbre) ou un objet, ce qui conduit à adopter ses caractéristiques.


Tuesday, November 1

Why Aggression is Illegal

Scaring people is a crime -- at least, when you cause them to believe you'll hurt them. Assault is aggressive behavior, and a crime in its own right. 

The case of Vetter v. Morgan is an interesting read, and worth understanding if you yourself have ever been the victim of road rage or bullying. Should bullies go to jail for instilling fear in their victims? Thoughts? Debate it on our Facebook page

Assault and Battery

Not the same things. Battery involves actual physical harm to another person; Assault means causing a person to fear imminent harm. 

Citation: Vetter v. Morgan, 913 P.2d 1200 (1995)

Aggression et Batterie

Pas les mêmes choses. La batterie implique un préjudice physique réel à une autre personne ; Agression signifie faire craindre à une personne un préjudice imminent.

Référence : Vetter c. Morgan, 913 P.2d 1200 (1995)